My New Year resolution: Healing the ‘split personality’

The new year is here. What amazes me most is the practice of making resolutions at the start of the year. I really admire those who strictly follow their resolutions, though I am myself extremely poor in these things.

But this year I have made a resolution. I have decided to wipe out all traces of the ‘split personality’ in myself!

I was the kind of person who never believed in researches and comments made on split personality, but yes, now some real life experiences have made me re-think the issue.

I say that most of the people suffer from split personality. Haven’t you observed that we are different when we are happy and calm and at peace, and we become very different when we are upset and angry and annoyed! Isn’t this a case of split personality?

I will say a big YES; though there are chances that researchers will plan to slay me after reviewing my write-up.

I have observed that even those who like to stay in peace end up fighting when at times things don’t turn up to their expectations. To explain more, let’s take an example.

Suppose you have a small happy family and you don’t like your child asking permission for late night parties. What would you do? The first few times, you will handle the situation calmly, but what after that what? Won’t you slap your child saying what most parents say under these circumstances, “how many times have I told you not to ask and go for such parties?”

It was a very small example but I am sure it would have rightly portrayed split personality.

This New Year I wish to have one whole personality rather than the split one. Healing the split is my resolution.

I have discovered some tips for this as well:

1.    Always remember who are you.
2.    Always remember what impact will your second personality could have in future.
3.    Don’t make decisions when you are not feeling like ‘original’ you.
4.    Start behaving exactly opposite when you feel that the ‘second’ person wants to come out, like if the ‘second’ person wants you to shout at someone, go and give a hug to the same person and so on.
5.    The most important, always remember this is your NEW YEAR RESOLUTION!

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Priyanka Thakur is currently part of the HR team at Delphi Automotives Pvt Ltd, Greater Noida, responsible for recruitment, training, employee engagement activities and HR interventions. She writes regularly for HRD Newsletter. Contact mailpriyankain@gmail.com