Caroline Thomas | Jan 12, 2009
It was truly like swimming in the Dead Sea, you think you are swimming well, and little did you know that there was hardly any buoyancy! The buoyancy mainly being the inflated heads of most these men!
Dates and days came and went. Coffee pubs and restaurants saw me churning food into my plate or swirling dregs of coffee…all round. I just wished – God why is it so difficult to figure out what this guy wants!!
I wound up my record of finding the right man by the mid of 2007, for fear of getting placed into the Guinness book…or let’s be humble…Limca book of Records. I assured myself this is complete hogwash and that having choices doesn’t make sense. Is it a matter of choice or destiny that you end up with who ends up with you?
We are given choices at all times. We ask ourselves why destiny can’t just lead us. Is everything that is destined, a matter of choices that you make? Or are we preprogrammed robots that do as we are told?
If yes, then who programmes us? Who works on our motherboard and updates our databases? Are we genetically tuned to repeat the mistakes and glories our fathers and forefathers encountered?
Your circumstances and situations act as parameters for your choices. Therefore if you take a good look at your choices they are directed by what seems optimum at that time more than what I should do or how I go forward.
Media is an essential tool in processing our choices since it captures our attention almost 95% of our conscious time. Look at how media has built its repertoire of images today? You have such a conglomerate of images to choose what you see perfect in your visual space.
You have ads that compare the size of sanitary napkins to the size of a young girl. You have insurance policies that present death as hope! Think about the ad that shows a middle aged man rummaging through the refrigerator for dessert and then realises his kids wouldn’t have any left!
You have old people feeling so young thanks to the paint on their walls, and therefore forget about their grandkid screaming for help. You have a car being presented as a symbol of power, power that disturbs a man spending peaceful time fishing in a calm lake.
What are the images that are being played towards our choices? Or are our choices directing these images?
Do identify who is feeding your visual image! And then set your lens in focus: Identify what your visual image has been feeding you.
If your parameters (situations or circumstances or long term value systems) don’t correlate with the images, then please don’t skew your results by forcing them to do so.
Caroline is a behavioural trainer who majored in wildlife biology. The apt words for the way she spends most of her time is observation and analysis. Leisure is mostly defined in terms of music, concerts or playing the piano.
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