When all else fails – help someone who grieves and wails.

All of us have been helped without an exception.
From the very first day we were born.
By the doctors, midwife or by a nurse, to begin with.

Thereafter, once we were born…
We began our journey, with 24*7 help, from our mother.
Then our parents.
Our siblings.
Our classmates.
Our college friends.
Our peers.
Our colleagues,well wishers and superiors.

Thats how we reached, where we are now.
Wherever we are.

Think, and then reflect on this continuous invisible strain of human inter-dependability without which, one cannot be what he is, or get to, wherever he wants to get to.
Has gotten to, too.
Then why are we unable to
Get there, without being stressed?
Why do we get so stressed up, when we do not get to get there?
It was not like this earlier.
Strange.

Now, let’s do us a small favour.
Let’s analyze it on paper.

Just jot down how many times, and who all, have helped you, and in turn, you have helped, ever since you began to seek help, until you succeeded.
And continued to succeed.

Take a piece of paper…divide your life into periods of 5 years each, from the time you were born.
Write down in each block of 5 years, how many times were you helped and by whom.
For how long?

Did you ask for that help or was it provided without being asked for?
How did you feel about it?
Did you reciprocate…if so how?

You will be surprised…at the results.

It would begin with 100 percent help from your mother, when you were a new-born.
You would reciprocate to her 100 percent too, with a gleeful smile…when you were cleaned, fed, bathed and fed.
You never new those words, Thank you!!! then.
But you did reciprocate.
That charming smile from you would be enough, to send a signal to your mother, that you loved all the help from her, all the time.
She would never feel the stress of doing those acts again and again.
For you.

Soon, you will discover, as you grew up, help from one and all, would get to dwindle with age.
A depleting trend would emerge on that very piece of paper.
At times help would come to you, only when you sought it.
Cried out for it…in despair.
At times it would not, despite being sought.
In most trying times.

But, did you continue to help…in those times?
Think!

Mark that juncture as a significant time line, in your life.
That would be the time, when you would have invited stress into your life.
As a strife…advertently or inadvertently.
A parasite to your own blissful existence would become visible to you by now, on paper.

As you move on, into the next blocks of 5 years,you will discover:
With age, education, experience and economic independence, seeking help would have dwindled to almost zero.
Helping would also have dissipated.
To an almost zilch value.

And stress… it would have proportionately increased.
Doubled, tripled and it would ultimately emerge as an ill health related factor afflicting your life too.

Those innocent smiles from infant days, would have gradually reduced to smirks.
Frowns, migraines, strains, pains and… frequent failures would stare at you.

Failures!
As a grown up human, professional, father, mother, brother, sister, friend or for that matter even as a foe!
All stress related examples of failures would look into your eyes one by one.
Why?

You are no longer the child you were, and infant with exclusive right to 100 percent help!
You are grown up now…economically independent too.
Then why these failures…however small they may be!

On close introspection you will learn that it was/is the result of your own refusal to seek help due to several factors, the major one being, your own ego.
Egotism would have by now morphed from economical independence.
It would have influenced you to not help too as a retaliatory measure.

That‚Äôs how, you stopped being helped…and also stopped helping people around you.
Thats how you allowed stress to make a major difference to you and your own lifestyle.

It‚Äôs not me here who is surmising this for you…the paper in front of you, it is that exercise that is making you realize this startling but true emerged, revelation.

A very small exercise but very revealing one, has shown you why you get stressed so often these days.
Took you hardly an hour to accomplish/arrive at that as a conclusion.
Justifiably too.

Having done with that, what next?
Simple.

Reverse the trend…and get to bend.
Get to do it.
Do it now!
Mend.

Help and send…help.
Don’t whelp.
Help like hell!
Ring the help help help bell, loud…to be well.
Rather than be unwell.

Help.
To succeed…to be helped…to smile…to be the well being in you.

To live a happy life as an individual, as well as a responsible member of a society, that is reeling under stress related health disorders.

A society full of people ailing and wailing…for Help.

Do you want to join them too?
No, you don’t.

Therefore reach out and help…to touch, and be touched in turn.
Now.

Do that as a habit, develop it as a second nature.
To beat your own stress, if not anything else.

Help is a stress buster either ways.
So what stops you?
From succeeding and not failing?
Please help.

To concretely conclude: let me rhyme the message in this effort for you.

When all else fails – help someone who grieves and wails.
As help never fails them, who don’t fail to help, on the contrary, it billows their sails.

By doing just that, you are helping yourself succeed too.
Directly and indirectly.
De-stressingly speaking.