But this year I have made a resolution. I have decided to wipe out all traces of the ‘split personality’ in myself!

I was the kind of person who never believed in researches and comments made on split personality, but yes, now some real life experiences have made me re-think the issue.

I say that most of the people suffer from split personality. Haven’t you observed that we are different when we are happy and calm and at peace, and we become very different when we are upset and angry and annoyed! Isn’t this a case of split personality?

I will say a big YES; though there are chances that researchers will plan to slay me after reviewing my write-up.

I have observed that even those who like to stay in peace end up fighting when at times things don’t turn up to their expectations. To explain more, let’s take an example.

Suppose you have a small happy family and you don’t like your child asking permission for late night parties. What would you do? The first few times, you will handle the situation calmly, but what after that what? Won’t you slap your child saying what most parents say under these circumstances, “how many times have I told you not to ask and go for such parties?”

It was a very small example but I am sure it would have rightly portrayed split personality.

This New Year I wish to have one whole personality rather than the split one. Healing the split is my resolution.

I have discovered some tips for this as well:

1.    Always remember who are you.
2.    Always remember what impact will your second personality could have in future.
3.    Don’t make decisions when you are not feeling like ‘original’ you.
4.    Start behaving exactly opposite when you feel that the ‘second’ person wants to come out, like if the ‘second’ person wants you to shout at someone, go and give a hug to the same person and so on.
5.    The most important, always remember this is your NEW YEAR RESOLUTION!

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Priyanka Thakur is currently part of the HR team at Delphi Automotives Pvt Ltd, Greater Noida, responsible for recruitment, training, employee engagement activities and HR interventions. She writes regularly for HRD Newsletter. Contact mailpriyankain@gmail.com

I do not believe in making new year resolutions because I want to live my life naturally without any harness. And a new year resolution is nothing but a harness. We live once only. I don’t want to spoil it all by allowing new year resolutions to have the better of my life.

Every year many of my friends ask me about my new year resolution. My reply to their query is always the same – to break all resolutions that I am not going to make. I enjoy the shocked looks I receive from them.

Pushing myself to do something I am not naturally inclined to do is not my cup of tea. There is no point in being at war with myself. I do not believe in being harsh to myself.

The purpose of making new year resolutions is to make life more beautiful. If forcing new year resolutions upon you is going to make you unhappy, the whole purpose gets defeated. Then why make resolutions in the first place?

Making fun of those who perpetually work at disciplining themselves makes me happy. So I just do that. And yet I do make resolutions. But they are no grand things at the beginning of new year. I make them every day depending on what needs to be done and what is important to me.

So relax if you have already started breaking your resolutions. Follow my example and make daily resolutions – tiny bite-sized tasks that will bring you happiness. And if at all you break these resolutions, you won’t feel miserable. On my part, I do follow my daily resolutions without forcing myself to do so. It is not tough at all and it makes me feel good.

Life is short and every day is a new day. Live it fully without putting yourself in harness.