New year resolutions versus a natural, effortless life
We are just a few days into 2010 and I can already see people around me breaking their new year resolutions. I am glad I didn’t make any.
I do not believe in making new year resolutions because I want to live my life naturally without any harness. And a new year resolution is nothing but a harness. We live once only. I don’t want to spoil it all by allowing new year resolutions to have the better of my life.
Every year many of my friends ask me about my new year resolution. My reply to their query is always the same – to break all resolutions that I am not going to make. I enjoy the shocked looks I receive from them.
Pushing myself to do something I am not naturally inclined to do is not my cup of tea. There is no point in being at war with myself. I do not believe in being harsh to myself.
The purpose of making new year resolutions is to make life more beautiful. If forcing new year resolutions upon you is going to make you unhappy, the whole purpose gets defeated. Then why make resolutions in the first place?
Making fun of those who perpetually work at disciplining themselves makes me happy. So I just do that. And yet I do make resolutions. But they are no grand things at the beginning of new year. I make them every day depending on what needs to be done and what is important to me.
So relax if you have already started breaking your resolutions. Follow my example and make daily resolutions – tiny bite-sized tasks that will bring you happiness. And if at all you break these resolutions, you won’t feel miserable. On my part, I do follow my daily resolutions without forcing myself to do so. It is not tough at all and it makes me feel good.
Life is short and every day is a new day. Live it fully without putting yourself in harness.
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I love this approach. Simple, Honest straight forward and direct. Small successes and small ideas make a big garden of positive feelings and that is ENOUGH. These resolutions sometimes take us away from being connected and make it too much like a game – life is not a game right!
I am really surprised at a person in Judicial Service not believing in “Harness”.
Man is a social animal and likes to live in Society. A civilized society won’t accept anybody acting according to whims and fancies of himself/herself. There are certain limitations and obligations.
Even in animal kingdom there are certain unsaid rules, which everybody follows; has to follow.
I totally agree with the other part that Resolutions shouldn’t be on an yealy basis, as it does not encourage review on early basis. Once a person fails to keep up his/her resolution, he waits for the new year to attempt a new one and by that time he/she is totally ruined.
So it’s New Year Unleashed