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The Law of Reciprocity is one of the oldest forms of morality that exists in the world. It states simply, Treat others as you would wish to be treated. Those that ignore this maxim do so because they think doing good deeds for others inhibits their own progress; any successful entrepreneur can tell you, however, [...]

You are committed to achieving your success and if you’ve been on the journey for any length of time, you already know that there are no short-cuts. We have to commit ourselves to completing the journey and every time you make a commitment to anything, it will be tested! Along your journey you will experience [...]

Have you ever heard of “the butterfly effect”? It states that if a butterfly flaps its wings in New York it could cause a hurricane in Tokyo. The butterfly effect is a law of causality and chaos. It basically means that one small change in one place can have a dramatic effect somewhere else at [...]

Perfectionism is a curse -  a self limiting belief that paralyze us and keep us from moving forward in our lives. Coaches often term these self limiting beliefs “gremlins”.  We all have gremlins that whisper in our ear.  The Perfectionism Gremlin is probably the biggest offender. Researchers are finding that the need to be perfect [...]

Sometime in our youth we come to understand the issue and challenge of making personal changes.  We carry that understanding with us forever, yet many people never decide to become its master.  We avoid change like the plague.  We do everything we can to “make it NOT happen”.  Don’t you find that interesting?  Change is [...]

One of the questions I get asked most is “How did I get an Inner Critic?” That question is usually followed by “How do I get rid of it?”  These are both great questions and since I get asked about the Inner Critic so often I’ll answer these questions here. How did I get an [...]

Although it is often distressing to feel confused about what next step to take on your spiritual growth path, the mental state of confusion is actually a higher state of consciousness than being certain of your beliefs and spiritual principles. Feeling confused or “lost” is actually a signal that you are about to be given [...]

Think that’s a strange concept?  Think you’re exempt?  Have you ever heard of “Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also?”  Your treasure is what you concentrate most of your daily thoughts on.  Are you engrossed in repeated, driving thoughts of any of the following: making money, being successful and popular, food, pornography, [...]

While having dinner with friends last weekend, the topic most talked about was fortune-telling.   Apparently, someone in my group paid a visit to a tarot card reader and had his “fortune” told.  He claims that out of the 10 or so things “predicted” by the fortune teller, 4 seemed to come true only in a [...]

When change happens we can feel a whole range of emotions. The bigger the change, the stronger the emotions. What is particularly disorientating is that these emotions can fluctuate, sometimes wildly, and it is hard to know what they mean and how to handle them. As I write, many countries are experiencing the worst economic [...]

7 quotes on happiness – be yourself, be happy

Having more money is on top of everyone’s wish list.  People buy lottery tickets hoping to become instant millionaires. Some read books written by the rich hoping to gain some insight about how to make their first million.  Others succumb to get-rich-quick scams all because the idea of receiving loads of money is just too [...]

I have a confession to make.  I am a procrastinator.  I can find a reason to do just about anything other than the tasks I dread.  For example, I should be getting a mailing out right now, but I am writing this article.  However, I recently completed a ton of tasks I had been putting [...]

Have you ever wanted to be or do something very badly? You were passionate about it and often times saw yourself being or having the object of your desire. You thought about it and thought about it but in the end you never received the object of your attention. All too often the best laid [...]

Have you ever had those Honey crisp apples? If not, you don’t know what you’re missing especially if you are an apple aficionado. Now I’m more than willing to drive the extra mile especially if it’s for something special like a Honey crisp apple. I drove for about 40 minutes and I pulled into Ecker’s [...]

We are in January now. It is the appropriate time for us too, like Janus, to look back and look forward. However, we will not be physically able to look back and look foreword at the same time, since we do not have two heads like Janus. But with the single head, that we are blessed with, we can look back before we look foreword. In the time in-between we can review our past overall.

Most of the articles I see that discuss motivation talk about sports.¬† But we average Joes and Jills are not playing sports.¬† We just have to get out of bed everyday, go to work, and try to live.¬† We don’t have a coach working with us and a bunch of fans cheering us on.¬† There [...]

One of the many insights that will help you to use your influence to change your world is blending with communication behavior.  And because behavior changes, you must pay some attention in order to notice the changes and respond to them. In this model, there are four communication styles that reflect four communication needs.  Notice [...]

“But Mommy/Daddy, you promised!” Heard those words a time or two with your kids?¬† When you are a divorced parent, your helter-skelter, demanding existence seems to involve a lot of cajoling on your part to get your kids moving in the direction you want them to move.¬† So, you promise them something to motivate them, [...]

Have you ever wondered what use you were ever going to make of learning how to solve mathematical equations?¬† I think we all have to admit that most of us don’t tend to use that knowledge on a daily basis… mmmm… What if we did?¬† What if we used it in a very natural and [...]

That’s a great question.¬† At some point in your life, you have witnessed in yourself and perhaps others, attempts at making changes to their life which simply didn’t “take”.¬† The range of changes is everything from losing weight to ending a bad relationship or smoking.¬† Whatever the example, we have all had an opportunity to [...]

“I believe the earth is flat.¬† Sure looks flat to me.” Indeed it does.¬† What leads us to reject that notion as soon as we hear it, and believe that the earth is round?¬† Other than that it was taught in school, and still is; there is the fact that “everyone else” believes it.¬† That [...]

Hey there busy Boomer . . GenX’er: What would you think of giving your aging parents a gift that costs you absolutely nothing except a little more of your time? Would that fit your budget? More importantly, would it fit your lifestyle? What is it, you ask. Are you sure you’re ready? It’s a commitment [...]

“Take all mistakes for hugs and kisses.” – Mary Perkins Mary Perkins isn’t a famous person; she was my grandmother. She was 98 years old when she died in 2007. When I was a little girl, I have wonderful memories of her and my grandfather at the farm. I sat on the propane tank and [...]

As I sat down to write this article my fianc√© David called. He had just spent several hours in the 90′ heat hauling and shoveling topsoil at a house he is selling. “Well,” he said after a few minutes, “It’s really hot but I have to get back out there- I have to get it [...]

“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best night and day to make you everybody else, means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight, and never stop fighting.” – E.E. Cummings I believe no truer words were ever spoken. It is so hard to remain true [...]

Work-life balance is a tricky thing to opine upon. In the abstract, it’s kind of meaningless. It’s not like you can say, “1.5 hours of work is the equivalent of 2.2 hours of conscious life (removing sleep from the equation), and I’m at work for 9.5 hours a day on average, and my commute is [...]

Each and every day can be a jump start towards getting everything you want out of life when you incorporate an attitude of discipline. An Attitude of Discipline is greeting each day with gratitude. When you wake up in the morning, you are granted another day closer to living your dreams. Simply waking up each [...]

A poem many of us may know begins with the line “What is this life if, full of care, We have no time to stand and stare?”¬† We are all in such a rush to get to our next destination we have no time to stop and reflect on where we have been and what [...]

Several months ago I was clearing a blackberry thicket from behind my house. Eight to twelve feet long, over an inch thick, and covered with huge thorns, these vines had a will of their own. When I cut and pulled one end, the other whipped around and grabbed onto my jeans or shirt and sometimes [...]

You can now track your laptop in case it gets lost or stolen by using a free software called Adeona.

QUOTE: “Living your best life is to find out what your calling is. Your real job on Earth is to find out what you were meant to be doing and to find a way to do that thing.” -Oprah Winfrey For years, I’d wondered what my life purpose was, what my calling was, especially in [...]

Burn Out! It sucks, but it happens to all of us at some time. I admit, burn out doesn’t happen to me that often, but I am finding just lately, that I have bitten off a bit more than I can chew! So what do you do when you find yourself suffering from burn out? [...]

Life is good at teaching us lessons – keeping us on our toes when things get too easy. Like many of you, I called my Mom in May to wish her a happy Mother’s Day. She told me she had a cold that just wouldn’t go away. She had finally been to the doctor about [...]

In the important areas of our lives, dissatisfaction is a positive – a way to constantly improve. At the same time, dissatisfaction has its limitations. Applying dissatisfaction to many areas of life just leads to frustration and regret. In my first job, as a salesman with Procter and Gamble, at the annual sales meeting the [...]

Do you need to find stress management tools to keep your partner from stressing you out?  Are relationships hard work? You bet they are. Not just the relationship with your partner but what about your friends, family and coworkers.  Since relationships are inevitable learning to keep them stress free is your best defense against stress. [...]

This simple, yet effective formula is excellent at transforming the old and worn out aspects of your life into a brand new and beautiful life.  Are you tired of going in circles and failing to meet your goals one foot before the finish live?  You are not alone.  It has been my experience that many [...]

There are people today who have lost their savings. There are others who have lost their jobs.  There are people today who are scared.  There is plenty of uncertainty these days. Despite all that is going on, I wanted to caution you about two groups to stay far away from.  In fact, even during the [...]

What is Forgiveness? What do you mean when you say the word “forgiveness”? For me, it means surrender, letting go, allowing, and acceptance. Acceptance of what is, of what has been, and acceptance of ourselves just the way we are.¬† Forgiveness means that we choose to love LOVE more than we choose to hate the [...]

Many people complain to me that the career or broader life issues they’re grappling with just circle endlessly in their head. I’ve experienced this myself. My two most determined circles were 1) wondering what on earth I was supposed to be doing with my life and later 2) questioning if I had the will, talent, [...]

Health, wellness, vitality, opportunity, joyfulness, energy, fulfillment, power for living. success. These are all qualities people need, and genuinely want. How can you come to experience them? Through exercise? Diet? Personal coaching? Drugs? Luck? Chance? Well, perhaps. But beyond these – way beyond these – is the factor that naturally stimulates and encourages these qualities [...]

A profound, irrefutable law of bodybuilding, and of life, is “What is expected, tends to be realized.” Take a moment here and think about what you (honestly) expect from your workouts. For example, what do you usually expect when you go to the gym regarding: – Your performance level? – Your commitment/passion level? – Your [...]

Literally, people who are continually lucky cause and create their OWN good luck – an affinity which, once learned, will enable YOU to begin experiencing the success, and personal gain you’ve been hoping for and – deep down – categorically know you should be experiencing! How can you begin to cause your own good luck? [...]

When I was young I had to ride my bicycle to school.  During the winters I had no gloves and when I got to school, my hands were frozen for a long time afterwards.  Imagine writing an exam paper early in the morning with stiff fingers and a time constraint. I first saw television when [...]

I love you!¬† These three words mean so much…some of the time.¬† At other times, they can merely be hollow words with nothing evident in sight to back them up. What they often mean is “I love you as long as I get that warm fuzzy feeling inside when I’m around you or when I [...]

Achieving success is something a lot of people want, but they suffer from a disease called procrastination. When you want to be successful and change in your life you need to overcome procrastination as soon as possible. Here are a few ways to overcome it: 1. Break down goals into smaller more realistic goals. Say [...]

I’m not quite sure why we do it to ourselves but it never ceases to amaze me just how much abuse people are willing to take from their jobs! The stress, the time away from family, the money spent just to be able to work a full day on gas and daycare…and for what? A [...]

If you want to eat it’s possible to be very creative and find all sorts of reasons for overeating. These reasons are, of course, excuses. But sometimes we find ourselves in situations where it is very difficult to eat as healthily as we’d like.

It seems that “advice” on how to structure your resume is everywhere, with varying opinions from numerous sources. In today’s competitive job market, it makes more sense than ever to ensure that your resume is in top shape. Unfortunately, many resume ideas that should have been cast aside years ago still seem to float around, [...]

Yes, yes, all work and no play makes Jack and Jill a dull boy and girl. I’m not telling you anything you haven’t heard before – but the four most dangerous words in the English language are, “I already know that.” That kind of know-it-all response is close-minded and dismissive. It’s a mindset mistake that [...]